Quick Link: Having it All vs. Giving it Up
I've got a hefty backlog of articles I've written elsewhere as October was unusually prolific (and, truth be told, I missed a number of deadlines). No matter: our first stop is at VOX for ruminations on the no-win situation women, and mothers particularly, often find themselves in. Articles about motherhood, in all its sacrifices and gifts, have been jumping out on me, like God is reminding me: See you're not alone, maybe stop whining and wait on Me for just a bit longer.
As I read each piece, reflecting on the fact these women were already moderately to amazingly successful, I couldn’t help but wonder why being a mother and feeling creatively fulfilled seem to forever be at odds. Not just that, but by any measure, these two women should be content, right? Both are earning paychecks, pursuing work in a field they enjoy, and raising families.
By any measure, I should be content, too. I followed a calling to serve abroad with my family, married to a husband whose vocation is flexible and fulfilling, children who have us nearly all to themselves and a fledgling writing career.
But… for them, and for me, it still seems to come at a cost.
Missed chances, delayed plans, and difficult choices haunt mothers at any age and in any circumstance. Not just that, but I’d wager these same issues haunt every woman everywhere. I don’t know if men feel this cost as keenly as women do, but I believe this truth is the same for all: For every yes, we trade a no.
Read more at VOX and let me know: what are you kind of growing tired of giving up these days? And maybe more importantly, have you reached the place where, with wizened eyes, you are able to see all you've gained?